5 Gifts You Can Receive From Physical Pain

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Shot by Todd Vitti

I grew up dancing for hours a day in a strict ballet environment. The strong discipline that is needed to practice such long hours each day created a high thresh hold for pain. No matter how tired, over worked, or injured I was, I was always taught to fight or work through my pain and keep going. I didn’t realize that most of my discomfort was caused from having rheumatoid arthritis. At the time, I didn’t know I had rheumatoid arthritis and ignored all the symptoms and ailments, assuming they were caused from my rigorous dance schedule. Eventually the symptoms progressed so rapidly that I became bed ridden and had no choice but to finally listen to my body. Changes needed to be made and I had to start working on myself internally and make dramatic life style changes. Being in constant pain from rheumatoid arthritis has taught me more that any other life lesson. Pain has been one of my greatest teachers.

Here are 5 ways that you can change your perception towards pain and let it be your greatest teacher.

1. Pain brings us to the present moment. There is nothing like a throbbing joint or aliment that can bring us to the present moment. We can be going through our day, then bam! our back goes out or a migraine kicks in. All of a sudden nothing else matters, except for that moment. Therefore it slows us down. If we don’t listen then the symptoms will progress and it will force us to slow down and be present. Truly living in the present moment and slowing down before the pain happens can possibly prevent health ailments to begin with.

2. Pain humbles us and puts our ego in check. So many of us go around as if we are bullet proof, super heroes but pain immediately has the ability to humble us. Pain makes us human. It creates a modest behavior that in turn, makes us very admirable and gives us the opportunity to build good character. I always say my auto- immune disease is part of my charm.

3. Pain creates compassion. There are so many people living with debilitating or life threatening diseases that have pain on a constant basis. When we are in pain ourselves, in comparison, it really puts things into perspective and teaches us to have compassion for those that live in pain daily or are less fortunate.

4. Pain creates gratitude. Appreciating the days when we are healthy and happy could be lost if it is not for the sick days every once in a while. We could take for granted our abilities but when we have pain we are reminded to have gratitude. Being grateful for everything, even the pain.

5. Pain makes us more health conscious. Some of the healthiest people in the world are those living with auto immune diseases. That is because the repercussions of eating poorly or taking poor care of themselves is instantly felt. They know that having a healthy life style directly affects how they feel. So pain is a reminder to be conscious of the choices of food we put into our bodies to create less dis-ease.

What we resist will persist. Embracing our pain and listening to our bodies signals can prevent future health problems. Having gratitude, compassion and kindness to ourselves and every living being creates ease and abundant health. Let pain be your teacher. A blessing not a curse.

* If we are wise enough to listen to our bodies when pain erupts then it will not be painful, it will become painless.- Jesse Golden

5 Ways to Make the Most Out of the New Year of the Sheep

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In Chinese astrology each year represents a different animal. There are a total of 12 animals that cycle. Your animal is based on what year you were born. Click here to find out.

Beginning February 19, 2015 we move into the year of the Green Wood Sheep (goat/ram) the 8th animal in Chinese astrology. Under the yin influence, the sheep is a symbol of peace, balance, harmony, and calmness. Some years/animals are more suited for each sign  but tuning into each animal can help you make the most out of each year.

Heres some ways to do that:

1. This will be a year that more will be accomplished intellectually than physically. Having more compassion and kindness will go a long way, as the sympathetic sheep displays.

2. Practicing self-awareness, mindfulness, and focus is very important this year. The sheep makes great stride when it is determined and focused…

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5 Things I Did To Put Rheumatoid Arthritis Into Remission

Shot by Marcel Indik

Shot by Marcel Indik

 

How I Healed Myself From Rheumatoid Arthritis
I always saw myself as a strong athletic woman that could get through anything. I grew up as a ballerina, dancing hours a day in my Mother’s dance studio. The rigorous dedication that it took gave me the discipline to push through pain, despite injury or illness. As I got older and became a Mother, I found a more delicate way of life through yoga and decided to become certified in 2008. During my certification, my body gave up on me and I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Having never heard of the illness and despite my concerns and apprehension towards western medicine, I took my doctors orders and started treatment right away. Most rheumatologists believe in treating the disease vigorously with harsh immunosuppressants, increasing the chance of remission. My body rejected the pharmaceuticals and the lines became blurred between the disease itself and the medicines side effects.
My journey continued and the pendulum swung the other way as I gave up on western medicine and did everything Eastern to heal myself. I gave my entire life to the Macrobiotic way of life. I became a Guinea pig and investigated every aspect of my physical and spiritual lifestyle. I hit rock bottom, eventually unable to walk and at 5.10 I was barely 100 lbs…. Unable to move or care for myself, I had no quality of life, that is when the real work came in. With a microscope I became my own doctor. The tools that I acquired during this time is what eventually got me to where I am now. There is no pill or remedy, it is an ongoing lesson. I have been in remission for several years now and thrive on sharing the wisdom that I attained during one of the hardest times of my life.

Here are the top 5 things I did to heal myself.

1. Diet- It’s not just about becoming a vegetarian or being gluten free, although those may be. It is a mixture of things unique to you. Taking into consideration your heritage, your blood type, where you live and your personal experience with certain foods. Being aware of allergies or negative reactions to certain foods. Often what we love most is what we are allergic to or what is causing the pain and inflammation. One man’s food can be another man’s poison. If your instinct is telling you its not good for you, then listen to it because it is probably right. The sicker you are, the cleaner your diet needs to be.
When I got sick, the first thing I did was take away the most common predators. These included meat, wheat, alcohol, dairy, sugar, and caffeine. I literally thought my life was over and I would never be able to enjoy these foods again but that is simply not the case. Once your body resets itself and becomes more alkaline, you can slowly start to reintroduce the foods in moderation.

2. Lifestyle- Take a good look at your lifestyle and the people in it. Toxic environments or relationships are like poison to the body. Everybody is predisposed to certain illnesses but our environment and lifestyle can trigger them and bring them about sooner than need be or at all. Positive changes in your daily routine need to be made in order for their to be positive changes in your life.
Once my health was in jeopardy this became very evident to me and my days revolved around healing myself back to health. Yoga, meditation, body scrubs, acupuncture, epsom salt baths, affirmations and prayer all became part of my daily routine. I shifted into a constant state of gratitude for every little step towards wellness. I was on a strict Macrobiotic healing diet and eating became my medicine. I was taught that the energy I put into the food would come back ten fold, that it had to be alive and vary in color and vegetables, chewing thoroughly until liquid, and set times to eat were 8:30 a.m., 12:30p.m., and 5:30 p.m. with remedies and tinctures in between. My body went through a major healing crisis but I have never been more clear and I was willing to do anything in my power to get better.

3. Fitness- I find that most people with autoimmune diseases are attracted to high intensity workouts and pushing themselves to the extreme. Rheumatoid Arthritis causes the immune system to over respond, causing pain, inflammation and eventually deformation. Over working the body can entice the immune system to over react. Finding a gentler way to move on a daily basis is key and when the body is not physically able is when you need to listen and go internal and do the work within. I started practicing moderate exercises every day, like simple stretches to keep my joints lubricated and mobile. I would take many walks/shuffles because most days I could only get to a slow 90 year old women shuffle by about 3:00 p.m. but I believed I had to keep moving as painful as it was, to stay on top of the disease. It’s finding that balance that I never knew before, between pushing to hard and just enough. On days where walking was not an option is where the real magic happened and I had no choice but to be still. At first I wanted to jump out of my own skin not being able to move and be physical but I didn’t listen to my bodies signals to slow down so my body made me listen by giving me no choice.

4. Boundaries- Setting boundaries and limits on expectations for yourself and others. Knowing it is ok to say no and not help everyone in need and most importantly not having guilt when you do say no. Self care and self love is not selfish, you can not serve from an empty vessel. I truly learned these boundaries when I became a Mother. I could no longer say yes to everyone, as my son was my number one priority and I was simply not able, but until him I never felt worthy to say no on my own. Know that you are righteous and having self love and boundaries is vital for your journey to optimal wellness.
When I was sick, setting boundaries with people became vital for my health. I never wanted to appear weak to others. I prided myself on being a strong, independent women that could do anything herself and help others as well but my old ways of living no longer correlated with my new life. I had to humbly ask for help instead of helping others and learn to take care of myself first and that required practicing self-love.

5. Don’t compare yourself to others- Everybody has their own regime or recipe to have their body work at it’s optimal performance. You are a rare piece of china and need to be treated as one. You are a sensitive antenna and feel everything on a higher vibration so you need to protect yourself and treat yourself with love and compassion. Refrain from comparing yourself to what others are able to get away with in abusing their bodies. Treat your body as you would a child or baby and nourish it with good foods, compassion, and lots of love.

* The ability to heal yourself is far greater than anybody has given you permission to believe.

The Golden Secrets is Now an App!!!

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Shot by Marcel Indik

 

Exciting news!!! The Golden Secrets has gone mobile and is now available at the App Store. The Golden Secrets app is a convenient way to stay connected to the latest updates and posts. Get your free download here!

My motivation has always been to try to help others and not having the ability to answer all the emails and calls I get from people desperate for help, I started The Golden Secrets in hopes to share on a broader scale, the tools and secrets that I have  acquired not only on my journey back to health but in all aspects of my life experiences. I truly believe  that every challenge we encounter throughout our lives is an opportunity for us to create more light. The Golden Secrets is everything health, beauty, fitness, parenting, spirituality, elevating consciousness and empowering you to find your own path to fulfillment and optimal wellness.

*Every day I wake up with a plethora of secrets I can’t wait to share.

5 Stages of Love/Day 5

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A picture of my Beloved Grandparents who spent 71 years together and 65 married.

A picture of my Beloved Grandparents who spent 71 years together and 65 married.

 

 

This is the final stage. The stage that kept our grandparents together for over 65 years. The stage where real true love is derived from. Once you have gone through all the gunk and mess of finding out about each others wounds and tics and go through the lessons that your partner puts right in front of you, you come to a place of selfless/unconditional love. Choosing to love that person, knowing all their flaws and strengths and being by their side no matter what. It has depth and substance in comparison to the first honeymoon phase. There is lust and passion like never before built from all the experiences you have gone through together. You can’t imagine your life without this person and you find gratitude in every day spent together. It is a choice everyday and everyday you choose love.

*Forever is not a word…rather a place where two lovers go when true love takes them there.

5 Stages of Love/Day 4

Epifany-This person can be my greatest teacher

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You decide to start building bridges instead of walls. You realize that you truly love this person more than anything in the world and instead of pointing the finger at them you start using the mirror they gave you to start making changes on yourself. You accept the work that is ahead and know that anything worthwhile isn’t easy. You respect and love yourself and your partner and your relationship becomes the foundation for everything else to flourish. Communication, compassion, compromise and acceptance of oneself and each other becomes your creed. The sparks between you two become ignited and onto stage 5…

*True lovers aren’t the ones who are desperately trying to change each other, but the ones who are successfully growing up together.

5 Stages of Love/Day 3

Blame

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All of your energy has been focused on your new relationship. You realize you have been neglecting yourself. You used to take care of yourself more by eating healthy, working out, accomplishing work goals but instead of taking responsibility for this change, you blame your procrastination  on your partner. Furthermore, instead of confronting the issue head on and talking towards a resolution, and building a strong bridge that connects the two of you, you start building walls. You start working against each other instead of with each other.  Intimacy starts to slow down and real life starts to take center stage again. Although all those “real life” things were always there all of it just seemed better in the beginning of the relationship. Now your partner becomes last on your list of priorities and the repercussion of all these built up emotions  opens up old wounds that you thought were healed. This intensity scares you and fear starts to creep into your thoughts. This is the time where you can choose love or fear. You can not live in both. This is where you see your partner, raw, open and broken and if the breakdown becomes a breakthrough then on to phase 4.

* “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.”-John Lennon

5 Stages of Love/Day 2

Reality

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After some beautiful time on cloud nine, reality starts to seep in. The honeymoon buzz dwindles down to a low hum and you start seeing those “things” you never saw before. Maybe the person had been doing them all along but you were so doped up on adrenaline and dopamine you chose not to see them. Now you start questioning who this person really is. Is he or she good enough? Do they have baggage? I didn’t like his or her response when I said so and so. You step back and question everything. Maybe you slow it down a little bit and instead of not wanting a minute to pass without seeing that person, you actually want a day to yourself. This is when you decide if the feelings you have for this person are strong enough to bare the road ahead. Knowing it will not be easy, you choose to move forward….and onto phase 3.

*Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark and the light within each other bound by the courage to grow thru struggle into bliss.

5 Stages of Love/Day 1

The Honeymoon

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Ahhh the honeymoon period. You know that feeling when you have met someone you really like and you get butterflies just thinking about them. You find yourself day dreaming and dancing on cloud nine. Hormones overflowing with excitement, you seem unable to sleep and your appetite is completely suppressed. Everything you have ever wanted to do in your life now seems possible. This blissful stage is the time in a person’s life that movies are written. It’s the reason why people do crazy things, like move across the world or make other drastic life changes. It’s a whirlwind of everything is perfect and this person could do no wrong in my book. It is one of the most natural intoxicating highs of life that we all crave. However, we could not exist forever on this cortisone plane of lust. It will only last for so long, as it should. On to phase 2…

*When I saw you, I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew. William Shakespeare

 

The 5 Stages Of Love

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Love! A human being can not live without love. First and foremost love for yourself. Love is truly what makes the world go round, what breaks us, rebuilds us, and fills our lives with hope.

Our first love is often felt from our Mothers. If we are lucky, we will feel love not only from our Mothers but from our fathers, grandparents, siblings, friends, children of our own and ultimately partners. Some love is organic, primal, unconditional right from the start, as such with a child. But what screws us up most is the image we have in our heads about how love in relationships are supposed to be or look. Love doesn’t look like it is always betrayed…blissful, effortless, perfect harmony. Love is complete madness, it’s fierce, it’s opening up every wound and scar, it’s raw, it’s filled with lessons, it is a gift that gives us opportunities to grow, evolve, love, and be loved in return. The greatest relationships are the ones that we never expect, challenge our every view, that are all wrong and right at the same time. If we can look at every relationship as an opportunity to become a better person then no relationship is wasted. Ideally when you come out of it, you are not be the same person that walked into it. Love takes courage, understanding, and falling in love with yourself first then sharing that love with someone who appreciates and accepts you and after all that, someday all your broken pieces just might be put back together. True love isn’t found it is built one moment, one word, one gesture at a time.

Starting tomorrow, I will take you through the 5 stages of Love. If you are in a relationship, I suggest reading the steps with your partner each day and if you are single you can begin to gather anything that resonates with you for when you choose to begin a relationship.

I am certainly not the expert on Love and relationships but Love does fascinate me and I have experienced all sides of the complicated, whirlwind that Love can bring. I only hope to share some secrets that I have learned along the way that may help you and your quest towards true love.

* To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow- this is a human offering that can border on miraculous. -Elizabeth Gilbert

10 Natural Ways To Cope With Stress

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It is inevitable that there will be times, days or weeks where life is stressful. The truth is, the stresses in life will always be there but they don’t have to affect your quality of life. You can choose to look at the positive and learn ways to cope and transmute stress as it comes up.

Here are some ways I have found that help me deal with everyday stresses.

1. Take one problem at a time.

2. Categorize issues as they come up. Ask yourself, what can I do? Will worrying and stressing help this situation?

3. Only deal with things you can change or do something about. If it is out of your control then let it go.

4. Talk to your friends about what is stressing you out. Let them see the bigger picture and be open to their advice.

5. Do not sit in solitude and run the same sequences though your head. Keep yourself focused on positive things going on in your life and go do them.

6. Find solace in prayer. You do not have to be religious to pray. You can pray to the universe or in affirmations, as if what you are asking for has already been granted.

7. Write down your ideal outcome for a situation to gain clarity. Let go of doubt and let your ideal outcome be so.

8. Maintain routines for meals, sleep, and exercise. Nourishing your body with good foods,getting adequate sleep and staying active will help you relieve stress.

9. Make it a rule to let go of the day after 8 p.m. or before dinner. Do not dwell on problems after a certain time of the day.

10. Breath, walk, hug, laugh, cry, be present and surrender.

*Stress is caused by being HERE but wanting to be THERE. -Eckhart Tolle

7 Ways To Get A Golden Tan From The Inside Out (Even in the Winter)

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Shot by Marcel Indik

It seems most people desire a golden tan. Spending hours in the sun only to get burned or end up with sun damage. Or attempting self tanner, only to look orange and then spotty for days after.

People always compliment me on my skin color, yes I have my parents to thank but I have noticed a lack of glow and color when I am not doing my little tricks that I have acquired over the years.

Shhh….don’t tell but these tips are about to make you a Golden Goddess or God.

 

1. Iron (ferrous sulfate)- Make sure you are getting enough iron. Iron deficiency can cause you to feel tired, forgetful and pale. Yes, pale! Because iron helps with blood cells and brings oxygen to your body. Efficient absorption of iron is needed to have color to your skin. It is best to get your iron from iron rich foods such as chicken liver, mussels, and oysters being at the top of the list but if you have a more sensitive pallet, turkey, chicken, beans and veggies such as spinach and broccoli are other great sources. If you feel you may be low in iron, then it is wise to get a blood panel done by your doctor to see if you need extra supplementation.

2. Beta carotine- Proof is in the pudding….when my son was a baby, I gave him too many carrots and sweet potatoes and well he turned orange! This is seen more in babies because at first their diet consists of mostly vegetables and not much of anything else. I recommend drinking at least a cup of carrot juice a day and yams or sweet potatoes once or twice a week for a tint of color.

3. Astaxanthin-  Astaxanthin is an antioxidant that gives salmon and flamingo their pink hue. It will also give you a golden glow and helps remove scars and age spots. Eating salmon alone will not give you the benefits of Astaxanthin, as you would have to eat massive amounts. Saying that, salmon has numerous other benefits and should be eaten regularly. Read more about Astaxanthin here.

4. Sweat- Sweat it out and release toxins from your body to make your skin glow. I always say my skin looks best after a steam or an amazing yoga class where I sweat. I call it my “yoga glow”. Sweat releases toxins that would otherwise not be able to be released. Bringing blood to the surface, opening up your pores and letting your skin breath and shine.

5. Sun- Yes you do need some sun. It is healthy and vital in small doses. I love the sun and when I don’t have it, I miss it. Growing up in Chicago I would get very sad during the long winters so I am very grateful to now live in sunny California. Saying that, I used to believe that the sun had to be blazing in order to reap it’s benefits. That is simply not true. I believe in being in natural sunlight at least 20 minutes a day even if it is overcast. Click here to read more benefits of sunshine.

6. Hydration- Hydrate internally and externally. Be sure to drink adequate amounts of water and electrolytes. I am a big fan of coconut water as it is more hydrating than Gatorade and a lot better for you. Moisturize daily with a chemical free, natural moisturizer. Organic coconut oil is great! Dry skin can make you look ashy and grey. Hydrate from the inside out with lots of veggie juice, herbal teas, kombucha, and coconut water.

7. Body Scrub- I am a huge advocate of scrubbing and I mean scrubbing until the skin is red. This is practiced regular in many Asian and European cultures to get rid of dead skin cells and help release toxins, creating smooth skin. I used to think that scrubbing would fade my tan but it is quite the contrary. It brings blood and circulation to the surface, which creates a beautiful natural tone to your skin color.

* No matter what shade of skin you have, if you nourish your body with good foods, love and light then you will glow from the inside out.

 

5 Ways to Make the Most Out of the New Year of the Sheep

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In Chinese astrology each year represents a different animal. There are a total of 12 animals that cycle. Your animal is based on what year you were born. Click here to find out.

Beginning February 19, 2015 we move into the year of the Green Wood Sheep (goat/ram) the 8th animal in Chinese astrology. Under the yin influence, the sheep is a symbol of peace, balance, harmony, and calmness. Some years/animals are more suited for each sign  but tuning into each animal can help you make the most out of each year.

Heres some ways to do that:

1. This will be a year that more will be accomplished intellectually than physically. Having more compassion and kindness will go a long way, as the sympathetic sheep displays.

2. Practicing self-awareness, mindfulness, and focus is very important this year. The sheep makes great stride when it is determined and focused but careless, lack of attention can cause the sheep to stray from the herd and get lost.

3. Remembering to have fun along the way. The attitude you carry on the journey is what will determine your character and success in the end. Find playfulness in everyday. Always try to find humor and laugh it off.

4. Aligning with the essence and the energy of the sheep will give you are far greater advantage than not. Acknowledge the characteristics that you have that seem similar and play on those throughout the year. Steer clear from comparing yourself to others,instead only strive to be a better version of yourself.

5. The sheep is a giver of love and affection and loves to be associated with social groups. Knowing this, be wise to spend your time and energy with like-minded spirits and affiliate yourself with social groups that uplift your soul and encourage your growth.

*Ideas are easy. It’s the execution of ideas that really separates the sheep from the goats. – Sue Grafton

 

 

***The Gift of Yoga***

10 reasons to give yourself the gift of yoga this holiday season.

1. Yoga instills a peace of mind, no matter what outside influences there are.

2. With consistent practice, yoga creates a healthy, subtle body which combats common problems that occur with the aging process.

3. Helps clear negative thought patterns and teaches you to be present.

4. Helps your body rid itself of toxins and stagnant breath.

5. Tones and strengthens your entire body.

6. Elongates your body and helps you become more flexible and ease pain from arthritis or stiff joints.

7. Teaches you to be content even in the most difficult poses and gives you such tools to use when life gets difficult.

8. Yoga is a healthy creative outlet for you to transmute energy and emotions.

9. Yoga creates mindfulness and helps you tune in, instead of tuning out.

10. Continual yoga practice helps one develop patience, compassion and the beauty of simplicity.

*Mastery of yoga is really measured by how it influences our day-to-day living, how it enhances our relationships, how it promotes clarity and peace of mind.- T.K.V Desikachar

The 15 Healing Items I Always Have In MY Bag.

 

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My must haves that I always have in my bag/purse. Most items can be found at your local health food store.

Rescue Remedy gum & spray- Flower remedy, natural stress reliever that is great for any moment where you are feeling overwhelmed, nervous, stressed or just need a little help to calm down.

EO lavender hand sanitizer- Alcohol free hand sanitizer for when washing your hands is not possible. I also use it to clean the air sometimes, if I know someone who was sick was in my space.

Boiron Arnica Montana- Homeopathic remedy for sore joints and muscles, overuse, bumps and bruises. Great to have on hand if you suddenly have back or neck pain or something more serious, like your child took a bad fall.

Dr Ohira’s Probiotics- Huge advocate of probiotics and these are great because they do not need any refrigeration so no matter where I go, I always have my probiotics.

Herb Pharm Cayenne- Great herbal first aid remedy used for warming the body, kicking a cold, increasing circulation, aiding in digestion to more serious things like helping to stop bleeding or helping someone who is in shock. I love to add a couple drops to my morning carrot juice or mid day tea.

Colodial Silver- Natural antibiotic that is great for the first sign of any illness. To be taken internally and can be used externally on cuts, sores, and even on the face as a little pick me up spritz.

Herbal Zap- I spend a lot of time on sets and there is always someone getting sick or getting over being sick. This is a great Ayurvedic immune support to have on hand and it tastes great too.Click here for Herbal Zap

The Golden Secrets Essential Oil- My personal essential oil that I have been wearing for years is now available for everyone. It truly is a piece of me and has a magical, desirable scent but also has healing benefits on the mind and body. Has the ability to help you cultivate what it is you need to accomplish each day and give you clarity. I use it throughout the day for a quick pick me up.

Click here to learn more and buy The Golden Secrets Essential Oil

This Naturally lip balm- All natural ingredients that actually plumps up and moisturizes the lips and smells great too. Can also be used on dry skin, face and cuticles. Click here for This Naturally lip balm and other amazing products

Stevia- A plant that is sweeter than sugar, zero calories and may even harness other health benefits. A lot of restaurants are now carrying stevia but I always have it on hand just in case. Avoid splenda  at all costs.

Accupuncture ring- An acupuncture ring is a ring that you put on each individual finger, rolling the ring up and down a couple of times then moving onto the next finger. We have all of our nerve endings in our hands and feet so simply doing this self-massage has an overall stress release effect on the whole body. Creating a calm and relaxed feeling.

Yourtea/tiny tea- An organic tea that nourishes and gently cleanses the digestive system. Also helps with bloating, removing toxins, and improves energy levels. Tastes great and is perfect 30 minutes prior or after eating. Click here for Yourtea

Tulsi tea- A powerful adaptogen tea that has more benefits than I can name, but to name a few it is anti-aging, balances energy levels, abundant in antioxidants and reduces stress. There are numerous yummy flavors and I always have one on hand.

Similasan eye drops- I tend to have dry eyes so I always have these natural, homeopathic drops on hand. Great for any kind of eye irritation or eye strain.

* Crystal (white quartz)- My whole house is filled with crystals so of course I keep a little one in my bag. I am very drawn to them and their healing abilities so there are times throughout my week when I pull my crystal out for a little inspiration, grounding, or healing.

I’m an optimist, but I’m an optimist that carries a raincoat. – Harold Wilson

 

The Golden Secrets Essential Oil Benefits

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Each oil is personally made by me with love and light. All oils are organic and pure. The actual recipe must remain a secret but here are some of the benefits this magical oil can cultivate…

* This divine natural fragrance will adapt to your own body chemistry. Creating a beautiful blend, as unique as you.

* This scent can calm, balance, and harmonize your energies and those close to you. It’s refreshing aroma helps to cleanse, refresh, and strengthen the mind and body.

* Once your body adjusts to the synergy of the oil it can attract and entice abundance in all areas of your life.

* The tantric magic of this blend originated from Roman folklore, used as an attraction oil or aphrodisiac to stimulate romance.

* Those that respond pleasant to it are there to stay and those that aren’t should stay away.

Suggested affirmations to recite while applying the oil to further enhance it’s benefits.
I am loved, I am beautiful, I am worthy, I am calm, I am grounded, I am strong, I am wise.

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Signs From Loved Ones On The Otherside

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Since I was a child, I have had a deep connection with the other side. Often spending hours talking to spirits and loved ones that had passed. My experiences and curiosity opened up many conversations with family and friends, where we made pacts, that if one of us would cross over that we would let the other one know we were ok somehow. Unfortunately that pact has come to fruition several times in my life, as I have lost many dear to me but the beauty in it is I know they are never far and always with me because they have all let me know.

Here are some common ways that spirits or loved ones passed can communicate with you.

It’s a feeling- If you feel that they are with you, then they are. It is an indescribable feeling. As if you are not alone, even when you physically are. Feeling a cold chill of goose bumps, a delicate touch, whisper, or essence behind you. It is them letting you know they are with you.

Electricity- Lights turning on and off, alarms, televisions, radios turning on at random are all ways that they are able to connect with you. Spirits have the ability to create electrical disturbances. In the past, I have experienced all of the above including my alarm going off inside the house due to body temperature presence. Usually the manifestation of a spirit creates a “cold Spot.” When there is no other explanation for these disturbances then you can assume it is a spirit trying to get your attention.

Money- Do you ever find random change somewhere you know you did not put there? Special coins that have a meaning only you would know. Maybe the date or the origin of the coin confirms a special message between you and a loved one. Or any object, trinket, flower or feather. A symbol that tells you it is them and everything is going to be ok.

Music- It is one thing to have your radio turn on randomly but it is extra special when that song plays that only you and your loved one know. Communicating through music is very profound because through the song they are able to say so much more.

Scents -Familar scents that you associate with that person but a smell that comes from know where and has no rhyme or reason. As in a particular cigar that your uncle smoked but your alone in your home. Or Driving alone and you get an overwhelming whiff of your Grandma’s perfume.

Dreams- Communicating through dreams so real that it’s as if you spent the entire night with someone who is no longer earth-bound and often awake as if you never slept. I experience a lot of these dreams and even before my Grandmother passed I did as well. She was in and out of consciousness for a while, almost between worlds due to her declining health.  I was unable to see her as often as I liked because she lived across the country so I would tell her telepathically to meet me on this “park bench” in my dream. I would have these very vivid dreams of us where we would spend hours laughing and eating like old times. One day I told my Mom and she casually asked my Grandma if she had seen me lately and she replied, yes! we have dinner all the time together. Yes, we do Gram.

Animals- There are special animals that represent families past. As in a red cardinal but you will most likely have your own animal that will often come by to say hello. An animal synonymous to you or your loved one or an animal that is acting strange as in a wild animal being more friendly than normal. Or your own pet acting as if someone else is there, chasing an invisible person,barking, or acting peculiar. Animals have a 6th sense and often see more than us, children as well.

Apparition- Seeing a silhouette of a body form that upon recognition, slowly disappears. Since I was a child I have seen people standing  watching over me. Still to this day at least once a week, I will see an apparition at the edge of my bed. I know it can seem scary at first but it can be very comforting too. The reason this often happens at night is the veil between the physical and the metaphysical is thinnest between the hours of 3-4 am. It is just you and them tuning in at the same vibration.

* “ Whether you’ve seen angles floating around your bedroom or just found a ray of hope at a lonely moment, choosing to believe that something unseen is caring for you can be a life-shifting exercise.” -Martha Beck

I Was Not Born Flexible, I Fight For It. Learn How I Do It.

Shot by Todd Vitti

Shot by Todd Vitti

I grew up dancing at my Mother’s studio and always admired the ballerinas who effortlessly  had their legs up to their ears. I would spend hours a day training and then after training, go home and stretch until bed. So much so that my nickname growing us was ‘Stretch”. I got my first yoga book at the age of 14 and started to try to copy some of the more contortionists type poses. This planted a seed of possibilities into my head that I have strived for ever since.

Many of you know that I have battled severe rheumatoid arthritis. After almost a year of being completely immobile, I had to start from scratch. I felt stiffer than the tin man. Each joint felt like it needed oil or lubrication and my muscles were frozen tight. I started very simple, from the ground up. I mean bending my legs and arms was a lot for me at the time. But each day I did some sort of movement or stretching, as minor as it was. My original intention was just to be able to put my shoes on again and to help keep my Rheumatoid Arthritis at bay but through dedication and discipline I got my mojo back.

Today I continue to stretch every single day, even on my off days or days that I’m too tired to work out. There is no excuse to not stretch.

Here are some tips that will help you Stretch.

1. Give yourself 5 minutes every day to stretch. I often stretch in bed, before I go to sleep. I have an elastic band or you can use a towel and I put it around my foot. Both legs straight, one straight up towards the ceiling,other leg flat on the ground. This gets deep into the hamstrings but doing it laying down gives you the ability to focus on the stretch and less on the balance. The key is to stay there long enough for the hamstrings to lengthen. I recommend at least 30 seconds to one minute each leg.

2. Hot Epsom Salt Baths. I am a big advocate of epsom salt or mineral salt baths. They are great for your over all well-being and warm up your body perfectly to stretch afterwards. I recommend soaking for 15-30 minutes. Putting on warm clothes, including socks afterwards to keep the heat in and using this time that your body is warm to stretch and open up. I love putting my bum up against the wall and opening my legs into a wide split, letting gravity take over. Ending the day in a slight inversion is also great for your overall wellness and will encourage a great nights sleep.

3. Make the effort. For most of us not born double jointed. Flexibility is muscle memory. So it has to be done repeatedly to see results. Don’t get frustrated. Find peace within the stretch. Every time you push a little bit more, you become more flexible. Refrain from pain. Find the balance between pushing too hard and not enough, then sit in that space for as long as you can. Every little bit counts. Remember a couple of years ago I couldn’t walk or dress myself due to stiff joints.

4. Use your breath. When we are stiff, fear takes over and we tend to tighten up our muscles even more and then we retain our breath causing us to get stuck and stiff. Instead use your breath to encourage your body to open up. Get into a stretch, inhale and let go on the exhale. Open your mouth wide on the exhale to mimic what you want your body to do.Always come back to the breathe when you get stuck or stagnant.

5. Get creative with stretching. I often stretch during family movie night or while I’m on the phone. I try to use my time wisely so that I don’t feel like I have to stop my world to stretch. I just incorporate it into my life. That truly is the key to overall well being. It is small things every day that become part of your life.

*Flexibility is achieved through practice.Just like a beginner pianist is not going to know how to play a Concerto overnight. It takes years of discipline and effort.

5 Ways to Keep Your Cool with the Ebola Crisis

 

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We are all living in fear with this new Ebola virus. Rumors of Ebola being the governments way to control the population and that this variant strain may have actually been created to do so. Every where you look there is new information coming out to put our bodies into fear, which can actually be one of the worst things for our immune systems defense. I am not sure what to believe but I do think it is wise to prepare for the worst and have faith in the best.

Here are some things you can do to take the edge off this Ebola crisis.

1. Empower yourself- Refrain from Facebook rumors and “certain” news channels. Do your own research or go directly to the CDC website for fact page updates or find a more left wing’s opinion and compare the two. I know it is hard to know what to believe but try to find reputable sources for information and educate yourself as much as you can. Know how to protect yourself and your family through prevention and knowing the symptoms to look for if they occur. Also it doesn’t hurt to stock up for a lock down. Californians are used to Earthquake preparedness kits as other states are prepared for other natural disasters. Add to this list official medical masks and gloves to prevent spreading in the event that someone close to you comes down with symptoms.

2. Keep your immune system strong- This is a perfect time to clean up your diet and refrain from processed foods, alcohol, and sugar that only deplete and breaks down your immune systems ability to fight infection. Instead nourish your body with fresh foods that stimulate and boost your immune system. Focus on antiviral foods like peppermint, basil, and ginger. Also be sure that you are getting enough Vitamin D3, something most Americans are deficient in that will help keep you healthy and strong. I also believe probiotics should be added to your daily routine, to help your body be as strong as it can be in the event of an outbreak.

3. Wash your hands- There is no doubt that the best way to protect yourself is still a good old hand wash. Make sure you are washing properly for adequate time and lathering soap. Refrain from touching your eyes, nose and mouth always! I mean unless you just washed your hands do not touch your face! Read my previous article here on how to prevent the spread of a virus. This is assuming that the virus is not airborne, in that case, where a medical mask when taking public transportation or in crowded areas.

4. Look at history- Remember that we have been down this road before and survived. There have been many diseases prior to this. Including flu viruses (swine flu) every year that rattles our homes with fear. Thinking that we got through that might put some ease into your mind. This in itself could be all part of the propaganda so that when the vaccine does come out, everyone will run to get it and the drug companies will make billions.Everything is based on fear instead of empowerment. There are things you can do now to be as healthy as we can but there is very little talk about that and lots of talk about just waiting for a vaccine. You always have to look at everything from a broader picture. Then throw it out and use your instinct!

5. Surrender- Once you have done what is within your ability to empower and protect yourself and your family, you have to surrender and continue to enjoy life. Refuse to let this affect your daily living and bring on adrenaline of fear affecting your health. Worrying does not do any good. Every time fear comes up replace it will a positive thought. Your thoughts create your reality. Visualize health and safety for the planet.

* Facts- 480,000 Deaths per year from Tobacco/ 300,000 Deaths per year from Obesity/ 88,000 Deaths per year from Alcohol.

*  “After you find out all the things that can go wrong, your life becomes less about living and more about waiting.”
― Chuck Palahniuk, Choke

5 Big Mistakes People Make When Working Out

Five things to think about the next time you get your sweat on that can increase your goal towards optimal health.

Shot by Martin Rusch/HMU by Michal Cohen/Style by Alvin Stillwell for Vimmia Activewear

Shot by Martin Rusch/HMU by Michal Cohen/Style by Alvin Stillwell for Vimmia Activewear

1. Forget the fan and/or air-conditioning- Nothing drives me more crazy than doing the hard work to warm my body up then having a fan or blast of air-conditioning right on me. The whole point of working out is to break a sweat. When the muscles get warm, you are able to get into a deeper work out, increasing mobility and flexibility. The other benefits are letting your body sweat it out and encourage toxin removal to benefit your overall health and beauty. Of course there are times where air conditioning is appropriate but try to steer clear from the direct air blowing onto you.

A Chinese doctor that I used to see informed me that there have been studies in China that give mice symptoms similar to Rheumatoid Arthritis by having them exercise while blowing cold air on them. What they found is it creates and infection in the body. The coincidence is that I grew up dancing everyday and then would go outside after sweating into very cold Chicago weather. I have also found this common denominator to be true of many athletes and others living with various forms of arthritis.

2. Drink fluids before and after, not during- It is very important that you stay hydrated, especially when you are active. There are scenarios that require continual hydration,as in athletes that train for long periods of time outdoors in the hot sun, but I’m talking about and hour and half yoga class or an hour gym or cardio workout.  Again, our goal is to warm up the body and drinking fluid has the ability to cool off all your hard work.

3. Running vs falling down the hill- There is a huge difference between running and falling down a slope. I often see people trying to run down a slope, very heavy footed, with their head ahead of their body. This is a recipe for disaster, not only are you hurting your knees, ankles and back, without having the controlled resistance you will not gain any positive results from bad form running.

Tip- If running down an incline, lean slightly back so that you have control through resistance, focusing on the heel of the foot landing first. Keep your chest lifted, core engaged, lift up through your perineum and focus on your breath in synch with your left foot.

4. Stretch before and after- I know our gym teachers always recommended this but there is truth to it. Stretching prior decreases injury but stretching after is where the change occurs. When your body is warm is when you are able to create more flexibility. Bottom line, people that are flexible stretch every day. Yogis are great examples of this. They practice vinyasas to heat up the body during the first half of a class and focus more on stretching and opening up during the second half. Give yourself time to incorporate this into your routine.

5. Thinking you can eat like an animal because you worked out- The ying and yang of life. Yes there are times when after a great work out you will reward yourself and rightfully so, but turning bad food choices into a habit after a work out is a recipe for disaster. Instead nourish your body with optimum foods that hydrate and give you energy for your workouts and recovery.

* When you feel like quitting, is the moment where if you push through, the magic happens. 

How I Turned Divorce Into a Positive Thing.

 

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It may come as a surprise to some, but I recently went through a divorce. I sure didn’t plan on divorce being on my list of things to do in my life but looking back at all my biggest opportunities to grow, they were all moments I hadn’t intended.

I came from a divorced family and more than anything didn’t want that for my son’s life but sometimes the universe has bigger plans and these life changes are all part of it. I know in my heart that coming form a tough childhood is what made me who I am and although I would never want that for my son, I have accepted that he too is on his own spiritual journey, growing and evolving into a young man.

With most things in life, I believe it is important for people to be open and transparent with their struggles so that others have the opportunity to feel hope and unity. Seeing others go through relatable challenges and coming out the other end is inspiring and brings hope and faith to others going through similar challenges. I always  choose to look at the bright side of things and take each opportunity to learn and grow and try to become a better person. I realize that these are the moments that shape our character and define who we are.

1. Take responsibility for yourself and only yourself. You are not in control of how your ex partner (husband,wife) wants to act and be. You are each individuals not responsible for the other ones actions. Each on your own journey and even though you shared some beautiful times together and felt as one, you need to come back to yourself. You can not serve from an empty vessel. This can be challenging if you lost yourself in your marriage, but what fun it is to re- explore who you are, now! Let this energy motivate you to do things you have been wanting to do.

2. You cannot make somebody understand or accept the truth when they are literally incapable. You can not squeeze lemon juice out of a dry lemon. Release old expectations and see things in the present. Know when to let go and righteously surrender. See the person for who he or she is now, not the fantasy or illusions you built up in your head while married.

3. Acknowledge the time you spent together and further more acknowledge the end. Your contract is up. You have learned what you can from this relationship and it is time to move on. Perceive this as a beautiful thing, filled with new, endless possibility. Change can be scary. The roles each of you once played have changed and that’s ok. There can still be love there, it is just a different type of love.

4.Let go of the stigma surrounding divorce and make your own rules about how the process begins and gets dissolved. It doesn’t have to be ugly. Just because you choose to no longer be married doesn’t mean the person has to be dead to you. You will mourn what was but once that is clear a new relationship is possible. This is especially true if there are children involved.

5. If you live from your heart and are always true then you have nothing to be ashamed of. You are righteous of divine love. Its ok. You did your best and learned what you could and by that nothing was wasted. Pull up your boot straps and get back up.

* I don’t see divorce as a failure. I see it as the end to a story, everything has an end and a beginning.- Olga Kurylenko

 

5 Things You Maybe Didn’t Know about Yoga That Will Make You Want To Go

Make up by Noseph Trinh/Hair by Ashley Streicher for Alo Yoga

Make up by Noseph Trinh/Hair by Ashley Streicher for Alo Yoga

 

I am a certified Hatha yoga teacher. I fell in love with yoga 15 years ago when I was going through a hard time in my life. I remember making a conscious commitment to go, especially when I didn’t feel like going because that was always when I needed it most. The physical journey felt like home because I grew up as a ballerina but the spiritual practice, the changes that occurred off the mat is what kept me going back. There is a sang, Yoga is a journey of the self, through the self, to the self.

My hope is to turn people onto yoga who have yet to give it a go, or maybe had a bad experience, or maybe think that they have to be able to touch their toes in order to go to a class.

Here are some things I would like to share with you about yoga.

1. You do not need to be flexible in order to go to a yoga class. I think this is the biggest myth. One of the many perks of practicing yoga is to become more open and flexible in the body but also the mind. It is called a practice because there is always room to grow whether you have been practicing a long time or it’s your first day. The physical benefits of becoming more subtle in your body will open up other areas of your life and help you to age more gracefully. It’s not about being able to put your legs behind your head. It’s about being able to put your shoes on at 80 yrs old and being more open in your thoughts. With the right teacher and class, everything can be modified to suit you on each given day. People often come for the stretch but leave with so much more.

2. Yoga is not a religion. Yoga can be practiced by anyone. There are some traditions that seem religious but they are simply ways to honor yourself, your teacher, your practice or whatever resonates with you. A common way to start and end class is by  saying Om (Aum) or namaste but it is what you want it to be. When you are in a class and everyone is singing Om, the vibration of everyone’s sounds together resonates on a cellular level so even if you choose not to join in you will reap the benefits. Some believe that Om was the first sound of creation and Namaste means, I bow to you or the light within me honors the light within you. It is such a beautiful message no matter what your religion. I love to seal the end of my practice by gracefully bowing in appreciation and honor of my teacher, my practice, and the gratitude I have for yoga in my life. Similar to a curtsy that is done after a ballet class or a bow to your master in a martial arts class.

3. There are 8 limbs to yoga. The physical practice, pose or asanas, is just one of the limbs. Click here to learn more about the 8 Limbs of Yoga My teacher once said, it is not the person who can bend into a pretzel that is the most advanced, it is the one who can maintain their breath the entire class. Breathing or Pranayama (life force) is another limb. Mastering the ability to connect the breath with movement, creating control over emotions, better concentration and possibly increasing one’s life span. Each movement has an inhale and an exhale. It is easy to get stagnant with your breath or hold your breath when you are in a difficult pose or difficult life situation but that is precisely why breathing is a tool to get back into the present moment. Looking back I really had no idea how to breath right until I started practicing yoga. It was  a whole new world that has transformed how I handle daily stresses in my life.

4. You will get a workout and it might just be the best work out of your life. I hear a lot of people say, yoga is too slow or I didn’t really get a good workout. Two things, A. Maybe you were in the wrong type of yoga class or teacher or B. Maybe that is just what you need is to slow down. There are a lot of different types of yoga. You need to find what works for you during each phase of your life. There is Hatha yoga or Vinyasa Flow variations that  are paced moderate to vigorous as your practice grows. There is Kundalini, which is represented as a snake coiled at the bottom of the spine. Kundalini awakens this untapped energy through repetitive movements that test your endurance and mind strength. The other types are Anusara, Ashtanga, Bikram,Iyengar, and restorative along with many new types of yoga classes popping up every day. Try a couple different classes so that you know the difference and can go to the appropriate one based on your needs.

5. Yoga will change your life. Yoga has the ability to take what you do on the mat and mirror it into your every day life. How you react or respond to a difficult pose in class translates to how you react to a difficult life event. Yoga gives you the tools to come back to the breath, focus (drishti/point of focus) and be in the present moment.

On a more relatable note, I hear some of the best business meetings happen on a golf course. Why? because you really get to see one’s character during a couple of holes of golf. This is the same for yoga. Everything you need to see about yourself will come out on the mat. Then it is up to you to do the work.

* Often what you don’t want to do, is what you need most.

3 Easy Ways to Stay Centered During Your Day

Mala Beads by www.tinydevotions.com Shot by @fivetwophotos

Mala Beads by http://www.tinydevotions.com
Shot by @fivetwophotos

With all that we have to do each day, it is easy to get stressed, side tracked and forget what is truly important in life.

Here are some simple things you can do through out your day to help keep you centered, grounded, grateful and living from your heart center.

1. Mala beads- Traditionally used for Japa meditation. Similar to a rosary, where each bead represents a number of times you recite a positive mantra, affirmation, or prayer, to come into a more calm spiritual state. It may not be realistic to do the entire practice during the day but once you have put all your positive energy into your mala beads, it is with you all day long. Mala beads can be worn as beautiful pieces of jewelry every day and the meaning behind it for you is a positive, constant reminder throughout  your day.

2. Grace- Every time you eat, say grace. Grace to your creator, grace to the Earth. Whomever you are grateful to, to be able to nourish your body with wholesome foods. Furthermore, if you are cooking be sure to say positive affirmations while you are prepping the food, so that you can digest the positive energy you put into it.

3. Shake it off-  Many of us have such stressful, demanding lives that our fight or flight response is being activated too frequently causing us to be off centered. The accumulation of stress hormones in the body can trigger all kinds of serious health problems,  so it is important to be aware and know how to release it on a daily basis. I always look to nature’s cure first and animals are the best at this. When their adrenaline (fight or flight) is released they literally shake off the remainder of stress hormones so that their body doesn’t absorb it. I’m sure you have all seen your dog or cat do this type of shake after they have gotten scared or defensive. Humans innately release this by yawning, sweating or heavy breathing, which is a slower process. The best way to release this on a daily basis is to mimic animals response. Stand up and vigorously shake your body to release anything that you need to let go of to keep you healthy and centered each day.

* When choosing your own Mala Bead, listen to your instinct, don’t over think it. Let your spirit guide you, as such in life.

Embrace Your Body and Let Go of Judgment For Yourself and Others.

 

 

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For those of you who do not know, I have Rheumatoid Arthritis. These are some pictures of me at my worst. Unable to walk for almost a year, dealing with severe side effects from both the disease and medicine. I am 5.10 and was under 95lbs. Losing chunks of hair at a time from Methotrexate (chemo) and other thyroid issues. Dealing with extreme pain from inflammation all over my body, including my organs, eyes and mouth.
Through trial and error of Western and Eastern medicine, I have been in remission for a couple of years now. My success has been through specific diet, spiritual work, exercise and lifestyle.
Through hard work I have been grateful to be the face of dozens of activewear/yoga lines and am very passionate about creating a healthy body image. Discrimination comes in all forms and I have recently seen some negative comments regarding me being too skinny. I am now a healthy 125lbs and have earned every muscle I have gotten back since my recovery. Diet and movement play a huge role in my goal to stay in remission so the consequence of that may be a leaner body. I want to encourage people to have compassion towards one another no matter size, shape or anything else. Everybody has a story. My passion is to inspire and encourage you to embrace your body type and support each other in the process.

Here are some easy tips to embrace your body by taking good care of it.

– Choose foods that nourish your body and make you feel good, not only during but after.

– Move your body everyday. Some days you might feel like you can climb a mountain. Other days a brisk walk and a nice stretch will do just fine. The key is to listen to what your body needs each day but at the very least, walk and stretch.

– Steer clear from toxic environments & relationships. Protect yourself through spiritual work and set boundaries to who you let into your energy field. There is nothing wrong with sending love from a distance:)

* Be kind and compassionate to yourself and others. Everyone is fighting their own battle, including you. 

5 Ways To Have Eternal Love

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I think everybody’s wish is to be loved. To feel complete, unconditional love that does not waiver from outside influences. A love that fills your heart and swells your soul. A complete contentment.

There are two ways to feel this magical love, self-love and faith. There is nothing else that can encompass this type of magical, eternal love. This does not mean that you can not open yourself to love others, quite the contrary. We were born to love one another but having the constant love for yourself and believing in something outside yourself first will help sustain all the other love that comes and goes.

How to have a heart full of love:

1. If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect anyone else to? Let go of the criticism and start seeing yourself as a beautiful creation that is here for a grand purpose. Treat yourself with the love and compassion you would a child or if you were a child again, what advice would you give yourself about your self-worth and love.

2. No pity parties, acknowledge your feelings and let them pass, refrain from sulking in them. Be happy for others, especially lovers, we are all in this journey together and you will have your turn.

3. Faith, believe in something bigger than yourself and commit. Believing in something outside yourself is what religion has mastered and has helped many through turbulent times. Find what works for you. Being able to tune into a feeling of unconditional, abundant love from your God, no matter what else is going on in your life is a tool that has endless possibilities.

4. Trust the process and practice self-love all along the way. There is no self-love when you compare yourself to others. Stop judging yourself and others. Surrender to what is and learn to enjoy the process, especially the rocky parts.

5. Disperse your love. Often when people are in committed relationships they lose some of the constant love for others, not in a cruel way but their lover seems to fill their heart so abundantly that its common to focus all ones love on that individual. If this partner were to ever leave, it could feel as if the love disappeared. Love is matter and whether it be focused on one person or many, it is the same love. It did not disappear. It was always there just focused on one person instead of many. Take that love and disperse it back onto yourself, friends and family and let it envelop you.

* Keep your love tank full with the love you have for yourself first.

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